Because of We


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I’m taking the time out of my day to say “thank you” to anyone and everyone who has been a part of my life in any way. I know that if any one of you would not have added your piece to the puzzle that has become my life, I would not be sitting here at a picnic table in the heart of Tanzania loving life, loving myself, loving you all, and writing this.

I have often made the mistake of labeling people, events, or things as good or bad – right or wrong – without knowing how each person, event, or thing was adding to the rich tapestry that has become my life.

I can honestly sit here and be thankful for everything and everybody who has come into my life for any length of time or for any reason because…

because everything I do, everything I have, and everything I am is because of WE!

Thank you all! ūüíė

Not My Circus, Not My Monkeys!

Not My Circus, Not My Monkeys!

Wow! Talking about a phrase that set me free.

All the internal drama ceased as soon as I started reminding myself that it was not the people, places, and things that were happening around me that were causing me to be irritated, angry, frustrated, etc. It was ME!

I realized that it was my thinking about the people, places, and things that was causing the problem.

There is only one thing that causes us to feel the way we do, and that one thing is our “thoughts” – our “thoughts” ABOUT the people, places, and things.

Not My Circus, Not My Monkeys!

Another way of saying this is to tell yourself to mind your own business.

When people are doing things YOU don’t like, mind your own business. They are not your monkeys!

When a bunch of people are not acting as you like…you know what’s coming… mind your own business. That is not YOUR circus!

The only person you can control is you, so mind your OWN business and leave other people’s monkeys alone and stay out of their circus!

And remember, when you are around monkeys that you don’t like, and when you’re in a circus you don’t like to be in, you ALWAYS have 3 choices:

1. You can ACCEPT the people or the circus.
2. You can CHANGE something, including yourself, or
3. You can LEAVE the circus and the monkeys in it!

Stop blaming the people and things for how you feel…..

That ain’t your circus and those ain’t your monkeys!

Your Thoughts Are In Control


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Our life and the conditions in which we find ourselves do not control our thinking, our thinking controls the conditions in which we find ourselves.

It’s been said that we create our own Heaven right here on earth, and I know that to be true.¬† I also know that we create our own hell on earth as well.¬† In my work in prisons, I find those who are living in great joy and appreciation for life and for¬† being alive.¬† I also find those who are sitting right next to them who are in a state of depression and hopelessness.¬† Same conditions, different states of mind.

Every situation in life has two aspects¬† -wanted and unwanted, positive and negative – and we are free to focus on either.¬† Our mere focus or thought about one or the other causes that aspect to grow and our feelings about that aspect to grow as well.¬† Focus on the negative and we feel bad, focus on the positive and we feel better.¬† It’s really as simple as that.

Life always follows this continuum:

Thoughts create FeelingsFeelings lead to ActionsActions lead to Results …. every time, for everybody.

If you don’t like the results or conditions that you have created so far, begin to look for the positive in every situation and your life will never be the same. The conditions around you will begin to match those positive thoughts that you think and the feelings created by those thoughts.

Your thoughts create your conditions and YOU control those thoughts.  Take charge!

A Course In Happiness


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How much would you pay to have a little more happiness and joy in your life?

Would you be willing to pay $5?

If so, take this simple Course in Happiness and if you feel happier at the end of the course, pay the $5 tuition fee.

If you don’t find more happiness and joy in your life after 7 days, go back to living the life as before and you owe nothing.

You have nothing to lose but the negative feelings that you have been dragging around with you for who knows how long.

Ready?  Click Below

To Change or Not to Change, The Choice is Yours


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It is easy to blame other people, places, and things for our current situation.  However, the cost of doing that is high.  When we do that, we make ourselves victims.  As victims, we have no power, we feel stuck, and we become hopeless.

The Good News

1.   People , places, and things are not responsible for our current situations.

2.  We do not need to be victims.

3.  We are not powerless.

4.  The power of Heaven and earth is in our minds and in our words.

5.  Hopelessness is a state of mind that we can either accept or reject.


1. As a man/woman thinks, so are they.

2.  When we change the way we think, we change the way we feel.  (Be ye transformed by the renewing of your Mind).

3.  When we change the way we feel, we change what we say and do.

4.  When we change what we say and do, we change the things we get.

5.  When we change the things we get, we change or lives.

To change or not to change, the choice is yours!!!



Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life

Since we have 100% control over what we do with our thoughts, we have 100% control over how we feel.

Every thought that we think causes our body to produce chemicals that match that thought.  Those chemicals are what cause us to feel the way we feel.

How we feel determines what actions we take.  Those actions determine the results that we achieve in life.

Thoughts + Chemicals = Feelings = Actions = Results

It really is that simple.  When we stop blaming people and conditions for the way we feel, and focus on our thoughts, we begin to take control of our lives.

The most power thoughts are those of love and appreciation.¬† Take the time to think about and write about who/what we appreciate and you will take control of how you feel …. and that begins to change everything!

I’ve seen these changes time after time with people who attend my classes and my coaching sessions.¬† If it can happen with them, it can happen for you!

You Are In Control


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You have 100% control over what you do with your thoughts.  You may not have control over what thoughts show up, but you do have control over what you do with them.

If you don’t like the way a thought makes you feel, you can simply let it go and choose a thought that feels better.¬† Since you cannot focus on two thoughts at the same time, the thought that you focus on grows, and the other thoughts dies from lack of nourishment.¬† It is as simple as that!

When you want to feel better, choose a thought that feels better.¬† You can always do that, no matter the situation.¬† You can always choose a hopeful thought.¬† You can be hopeful that you’ll feel better.¬† You can hopeful that conditions will change.¬† Hopefulness leads to better feelings and better thoughts.¬† Start there when things are not what you want them to be.

The choice is yours.  Be a victim of what other people say or do, or the conditions around you, or be a victor and choose a better-feeling thought about about what people do or say, or the conditions around you.

You are always in control.  Take charge and be happy!

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life


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  • You have 100% control of what you do with your thoughts
  • When you change your thoughts, you change your life
  • Change is a choice that only you can make
  • When and if you change is entirely up to you
  • Your thoughts are not controlled by the conditions in your life, the conditions in your life are controlled by your thoughts
  • As soon as you stop blaming other people and other things for your conditions, you reclaim your power and you are free to change

We Are All Connected

While working with one of my daughters, Monica, to gain more insight into our ancestry, I came across this quote on the 23&Me ancestry website that explains my maternal lineage. ¬†It is one of the most profound statements that I’ve heard and one that resonates deeply within me.

Once we truly understand the deep meaning of the statement, we’ll stop the fight against one another based on race, religion, national origin, and any other artificial barriers. ¬†In my understanding, the furthest we can get away from each other is to be a “cousin”. ¬†Let’s put our faith into practice and learn to love each other.

….. After all, s/he ain’t ___________(fill in the blank) s/he’s my cousin!

Here is the quote:

If every person living today could trace his or her maternal line back over thousands of generations, all of our lines would meet at a single woman who lived in eastern Africa between 150,000 and 200,000 years ago. Though she was one of perhaps thousands of women alive at the time, only the diverse branches of her haplogroup have survived to today. The story of your maternal line begins with her.